Ministry Coaching Framework:
Love God and Love Others + Five Movements
This framework is designed to help believers love God and love others in everyday life. We love God by worshiping him and obeying his word. We love others by serving, evangelizing non-Christians, and discipling fellow believers to follow Jesus faithfully. This coaching framework is a simple, Scripture-shaped pattern for disciple-making that can be practiced in the normal places God has put us: our families, the gathered church, and our relationships with non-Christians.
The aim is not merely good conversation, but concrete follow-through in those three contexts. A coaching meeting should lead to one or two clear next steps that can be practiced in a household, within the church, or toward a non-Christian in your life.
How to Use This Framework (for Coaches and Coachees)
This framework is designed to guide focused conversation, not to create pressure or guilt. Its purpose is to cultivate honesty before God, concrete obedience, and steady growth over time.
Schedule regular sessions. Meet two to three times a month when you can be present with one another, ideally with minimal distraction (face to face or by video). Consistency matters more than length.
Pray before, during, and after the meeting. Begin and end each meeting with prayer, asking for honesty, wisdom, and dependence on God rather than self-effort.
Stay in your roles. Coaches coach. Coachees share. The goal is not mutual processing, but one person helping another follow Jesus and make disciples within their actual network of relationships.
Work through the whole framework over time. Aim to touch each section regularly, but do not force full coverage in every meeting. When time is limited, prioritize what is most urgent or most fruitful.
Maintain a posture of grace and truth. Encourage without flattery, correct without harshness, and resist pressure to force outcomes. Trust God to work through faithful obedience over time.
End with clear next steps and relational follow-up. Close with two or three realistic actions that can be practiced soon in ordinary life. Before finishing, identify one person in family, one in the church, and one among non-Christians that you will intentionally move toward before the next meeting.
Take notes and revisit commitments. Record what was discussed and chosen, and return to it next time so growth remains relational, accountable, and reproducible.
Over time, these conversations are meant to form worshipful obedience to God and active love toward others, expressed through serving, evangelizing non-Christians, and discipling believers.
Open in Prayer
Spend time in prayer asking God to grant openness, honesty, guidance, and strength.
Core Commitments: Love God and Love Others
Loving God and loving others are Jesus’s central commands that direct our lives—including worshipping and obeying God, and caring for others in practical ways.
The Word, Prayer, and Fasting: What pattern of Scripture reading and memorization, prayer, and fasting (such as skipping one or more meals to pray) have you been practicing? What changes in those areas, if any, do you plan to make as your next step?
Turning from Sin and Obeying God: What specific sins (such as pride, greed, lust, vanity, or overvaluing people and things) in your life would you like to confess and/or discuss? What radical, concrete step of repentance and obedience will you take to make it right and remove access to that sin as your next step?
Trusting God through Trials: What trial (such as persecution for your faith, illness, or financial challenge) or major decision are you facing right now? What concrete steps will you take to honor God in it (such as memorizing a relevant verse of Scripture, prayer, asking others for help, or a clear act of obedience), and when will you take them?
Truth and Love in Words and Actions: How have your words, tone of voice, and actions honored or dishonored God in your family, within your church, or with non-Christians? What will you do differently as your next step, and when will you do it?
Forgiveness and Reconciliation: Where is forgiveness needed—either to be given or received? Which relationship is strained by sin, conflict, or distance, and what specific step will you take toward loving that person through your prayer, words, or actions next, and when?
1. Serve to Meet Practical Needs: Praying with Others and Serving Them
Serving others shows Christ’s love in practical ways and often opens doors for deeper relationships and opportunities to share the gospel.
Family: What practical needs have you recently met in your family? What specific act of service or personal presence will you offer next, and when will it happen?
Church: What practical needs have you recently met within your church? What specific act of service or personal presence will you offer next, and when will it happen?
Non-Christians: What practical needs have you recently met for the non-Christians in your life? What specific act of service or personal presence will you offer next, and when will it happen, and how might this open a door for prayer, Scripture, or a gospel conversation?
2. Seek to Find Receptive People: Praying with Others and Inviting Them to Study the Word
We look for people who seem open to a deeper relationship with us and, more importantly, to learning about God’s Word.
Family: Who in your family has seemed open to prayer, Scripture, or talking about God recently? What simple next step will you take with them, and when will you take it?
Church: Who in your church seems open to a deeper relationship with you? How will you move toward that person next, and when?
Non-Christians: Who has seemed open, curious, or unusually willing to talk recently? What specific next step (such as praying with them or studying the Word with them) will you take, and when will it happen?
3. Invite to Discover the Christian Message: Scheduling Meetings to Share the Gospel
Invitation moves relationships toward clarity about how people can know God through Jesus Christ.
Training as Ambassadors for Christ (2 Cor. 5:20): We want all believers to be able to share the gospel clearly and confidently. Every coachee will practice explaining The Path to God to their coach over two sessions (pages 1–5 in the first session and pages 6–8 in the second), or over additional sessions if helpful. The coachee takes the lead by guiding the conversation through the document paragraph by paragraph, while the coach and coachee take turns reading aloud. At times, the coach assumes the role of a non-Christian (for example, when responding to the questions on page 1), followed by brief feedback, correction, and encouragement.
Family: With whom in your family have you discussed The Path to God (or something similar) recently? Who will you invite next into a clearer conversation about knowing God through Jesus and gaining assurance of salvation, and when will that conversation take place?
Church: Who in your church would benefit from walking through The Path to God? When and how will you invite them to do it with you?
Non-Christians: What gospel conversations have you had recently with non-Christians? Who will you invite next to hear the gospel—through a set time to talk, reviewing The Path to God, or coming to your weekly gathering? If they say yes, immediately schedule the next step: a time to talk, a time to read Scripture, or an invitation to your gathering.
4. Gather to Grow in Biblical Community: Inviting People to Your Gathering and Serving those in Your Church
The weekly gathering of the church strengthens believers and provides a place for non-Christians to hear God’s Word and experience genuine love.
Family: What simple rhythms of Scripture reading, prayer, or spiritual discussions did your household practice recently? What is one rhythm you will start or strengthen next, and when?
Church: How did you contribute to your gathering (in your words or actions) this past week? What concrete step will you take next to strengthen those in your church?
Non-Christians: Who have you welcomed into your gathering recently? Who will you invite next to gather in community with you? Is God beginning to put a desire or opportunity on your heart to host or help start a gathering of your own to help others follow Jesus? If so, who would you need to pray with and talk with (including your spouse and pastor) before taking a next step?
5. Equip to Develop New Leaders: Coaching Others and Scheduling Meetings
Coaching is intentional disciple-making so that believers grow into the likeness of Christ—including teaching others to make disciples of Jesus.
Family: Whom are you coaching in your family right now, or would like to begin coaching? What obstacles are you facing, and what are your next steps with them? What spiritual responsibility will you hand to them next, instead of doing it for them?
Church: Whom are you coaching in your church right now, or would like to begin coaching? What obstacles are you facing, and what are your next steps with them? What leadership responsibility will you help them take ownership of next so they can serve or lead others and help others do the same?
Non-Christians: Because non-Christians are sometimes open to consistent meetings (even if they would not call it coaching), with which non-Christians would you like to begin coaching? What concrete steps can you take to meet more regularly with them? What simple acts will you model for them first (prayer, Scripture reading, obedience, service), and when will you do it?
List Top Three To-Do List (next 7 to 14 days; for each include person and action):
Identify Time, Date, Location/Method of Next Meeting:
Close in Prayer (10–15 minutes)
Pray for your own spiritual growth and for one another, asking God for wisdom and boldness.
Pray for the non-Christians you are serving, seeking, and inviting.
Pray for the believers you are gathering with and coaching toward maturity and multiplication.